Anal Sex Tips
“Anal Sex Safety Tips”
© 2003-2006 Nico Simon Princely
Many men and women (but I think more men, than women) want to try anal sex with their partners, I wanted to give some tips for you eager beavers out there!
Many women have hang ups about anal sex due to either previous bad experiences by a lover that was uneducated in the art of anal love & pleasure or from stories that they heard from other people or society...Yet many men and women find anal sex intensely pleasurable both physically and mentally, because of it's taboo or forbidden aspect...So just the part that warned them or scared them in the first place is what now attracts them to it....
I no longer see it as forbidden or taboo my self and I think that the world view of anal sex is also changing. For instance it's hard to even rent a porn movie these days with out at least one anal scene, and there are countless series of porn films that focus on anal sex. You did not see this 10-15 years ago! And more and more women are trying it and liking it than even before...
But in truth it can be painful, and you can injure your partner if you don't follow some very simple guidelines for anal sex.....
The first thing you have to do is to get your partner to be willing to try it. You must gently explain to her that you will not hurt her and that it will make you feel even more close to her to share this with her, knowing that you have pleasured her in every way possible..... If she is up for it you might want to rent a Anal video at you local XXX video store to watch with her so she can see other women enjoying anal sex.....and make sure it's a video she will enjoy as well and that will make her feel comfortable, Something by Andrew Blake or Cameron Grant would be good, just avoid the super hardcore titles like "Buttslammers! Ass Pounders! Ass Whores! Till it Hurts, Stop my Ass is on fire! Etc... Would NOT BE GOOD TO Watch with her! If you get my drift! Pick Something where the box cover looks like a Penthouse Magazine Pictorial!
Next you will need some supplies. Lube and lots of it, you can never have too much lube.... Condoms, strong ones ( I am assuming that you are in a monogamous relationship and safe sex is not an issue, if NOT condoms are must as well as latex gloves, and an HIV test for both of you is not a bad Idea!) Any way I recommend a condom even if you do know the women well, because it makes the clean up easier and can protect you just incase you run into something if you know what I mean..... Also since the rectum does have bacteria inside it is just a good idea......
WARNING: Let's get this out of the way now! NEVER EVER insert anything into your partners vagina or mouth (this means your fingers, penis, a toy, your tongue, etc... after it has been in her rectum, the vagina was not designed to handle the bacteria that is in the rectum and it can cause a serious infection... Also don't insert anything into your mouth that has been inside her rectum.
Now on with the show.. First you need to make love and giver her several orgasms during intercourse or oral sex etc... I would recommend you use the thrusting techniques in covered in my Penis of Steel Manual and make sure she has several orgasms. While you' re having intercourse you can play with and massage her anus with your fingers or thumb (Remember the Warning above!) You will need to be able to control your ejaculation so that you can have vaginal intercourse and give her several orgasms and then move onto anal intercourse without ejaculating until you are ready.
Then when ready to move on to Anal exploration, turn her around lay her on her tummy and slowly and gently massage her anus telling her how much you are enjoying it as you do it.... Use plenty of lubrication, do this for a few minutes then slowly massage into her and insert one finger into her anus very slowly, the rotate it back and forth and slowly thrust it in and out and tell her how exciting this is for you and how much it is turning you on.... After a few minutes add a second finger very slowly..... Now I could write on and on , detail by detail which is why a putting a manual together for this subject to cover all of the technique, but my space is limited here and I have to wrap it up soon, but even if you only get this far you and your lover with both be one step closer to experience and opening up to anal pleasure...
Now if you want to go all of the way here and now, then put on your condom if you plan to use one and more lube to her and to your penis and slowly rub her anus with the head of your penis, you can also slide the shaft of your penis back and forth thrusting over her anus, but then go back to rubbing her anus with the tip of your penis with more and more pressure each time until the tip of your penis almost enters her do this for several minutes, then use the Tease and please technique (as outlined in our Penis of Steel Manual but applied to her anus, and then you can switch to the 9-1 technique as outlined in our manual. If you don't have the Penis Of Steel manual read below to find out how you can get a copy of it!)
Anal Sex Precautions & Safety
I want once again cover the safety rules you absolutely must follow for you and your partner to have safe and healthy anal sex.
- Never insert anything that has been in your partners rectum in to your partners vagina or mouth (or your mouth). This means your fingers, penis, a toy or anything. Contrary to what you see in porn films these days, penetrative ass to mouth sex is not a healthy thing to do.
The part you are missing in the film is that the actresses in the films use repeated enemas and often abstain from eating before the shoot which reduces the level of bacteria present in the rectum and may even pre medicate with antibiotics to prevent an infection where as real women in real life situation do not.
Going from rectum to vagina can result in a life threatening infection in which the women may have to be hospitalized and given intravenous medication. Female porn actresses are always getting urinary tract infections. You don’t see what goes on behind the scenes. Remember porn is entertainment, not reality! And many times what you see is equivalent to porn stunts, just as you would not jump from a burning building like they do in a Hollywood film, you should not expect your partner to do the stunts done in a porn film!
- It is best to use condoms when having anal intercourse. This will not only protect your partner and you from STD’s but also protect you from any bacteria that may be present that could cause a prostate infection.
- If you don’t want use condoms, make sure that you know the STD status of your partner and that their rectum is empty (most people can tell when they are empty) or that they have a light enema an hour before. Then end with ejaculating out side of your partner and then urinate as soon as possible to flush any bacteria out of the penis that may have gotten in during the unprotected anal intercourse.
- Always use a plenty of water based or silicone lube (with condoms), oil based maybe used if you are not using condoms.
- If your partner says stop or that she is in pain STOP IMMEDIATELY!
- Make sure your partner does not have to go to the bathroom and has a empty rectum. Most people can tell if their rectum is empty. So she will let you know if this is the case most if the time. Many times when a woman says “Not right now” that is the case.
- OPTIONAL: It is also a good idea if you are your partner plan to enjoy anal sex on a frequent basis for your partner to have light enema an hour or so before anal play or sex followed by a hot shower. She can use the store bought disposable bottles, but she replace the liquid in side with warm distilled drinking water. She should also make sure that any residual water from the enema has passed so that it does not come out during sex or anal play which could be a very unpleasant experience. That is why if she is going to do this she should do it an hour to two hours before anal sex or play.
- Never have anal sex is your partners anus or rectum is injured, sore or irritated.
- If your partner has, chronic colon problems, or constipation, diarrhea, anal fissures, any bleeding in the rectum or hemorrhoids, she should see a doctor and you should not have anal sex until these problems are resolved.
- If after anal sex your partner has any pain ( I mean real pain not a slight natural soreness from anal sex), bleeding or any other signs of injury she should see a doctor immediately. If you have anal sex in a safe and caring fashion she should never have any pain or injuries.
Anal Sex Tips (For Receptive Partner: Women)
As the receptive partner during anal sex often the first few times they try it is can be uncomfortable or even painful if you are not relaxed and lubricated adequately.
Many of the women in my survey said that they enjoy anal sex, but when I asked what it was that the did not like most was the first few thrusts as they were the most uncomfortable. This discomfort can be avoided by learning how to relax your muscles and by warming up on a smaller object before your partner inserts his penis into you.
One of best way that you can learn to enjoy anal sex, have intense anal orgasms is to learn to relax your muscles and learn what feels good to you by practicing on yourself with anal toy or dildo. This way you will learn what feels good and what does not, how fast or slow you like it, what it feels like with different size dildos, how much lube you prefer etc... That way you can related this information to your partner and prevent any painful experiences.
I would suggest that you do this alone at first and then later with your partner as a warm up to anal intercourse. You might even want to watch an anal porn movie to get yourself in the mood by watching how much the other women enjoy it.
You can also let your lover use the toys on you and instruct them how you like it, so that when you do have intercourse they will know how you like it already.
As far as anal toys go a great choice is a anal beginners kit, click here to see a selection for you to choose from.
A few precautions I suggest you take are:
Never insert anything into your vagina that has been in your anus, if this happens by mistake wash immediately and urinate.
After any anal sex activity or anal masturbation urinate and wash immediately and thoroughly.
Always wash your anal toys and do not use them for vaginal insertion, unless you have thoroughly washed them with soap and hot water or toy cleaner, still better keep a vaginal set and an anal set.
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About the author: Nico Simon Princely is the author of the hot selling “Penis of Steel Manual” a guide for men on penis enlargement, ejaculatory control, sexual technique and supercharged sex. And “The Female Ejaculation Manual” A guide to G-Spot stimulation and female ejaculation for women and the men who love them!” You can reach Nico at nico@greatlovers.com
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